Savage, but true

This is why it is generally not a good idea to annoy Ann Coulter on live television - even if it is a daytime talk show hosted by a (supposed) man of the cloth who, in reality, looks and acts like a sackless Beta:


Ms. Coulter certainly did not pull any punches there. In the process, of course, she demonstrates clearly exactly why she is probably better off single and childless.

That is not a slam against Ms. Coulter, by the way, for whom I have great respect. She is one of the very few traditionalist women out there who (more or less) lives by what she preaches - and she knows full well that she is too driven, logical, and simply hard around the edges to make a good wife and mother.

So she stays single - and to her credit, she doesn't whine about it, she straight-up admits that being a single woman is a lonely and miserable way to live life, no matter how successful one is.

Her ability to trigger Leftists is something to behold, though. And in that clip above, she shows that, yet again, there is no faster and easier way to reduce the Left to blubbering incoherence than simply telling it like it is and refusing to apologise for the inconvenience that this causes.

People do not like to have their illusions shattered. It is painful indeed to be hit between the eyes with hard truths that require one to acknowledge one's own flaws, insecurities, and deficiencies. But one cannot improve if one does not know where one is going wrong.

That is what single mothers simply do not comprehend: they are a net burden upon society, and that by raising children as single mothers, without the guiding and stabilising influence of a strong father figure, they are, on average, condemning their children to lives of likely mediocrity, pain, and suffering.

The women in that clip have enormous difficulty accepting this conclusion, and present Ms. Coulter with a long string of straw-man arguments to the contrary - usually along the lines of the old, "I was raised by a single mother and look how well I turned out" dead horse. Such women make it plain that they are very much those who Cannot Understand Normal Thinking, because as Ms. Coulter is at great pains to point out, one cannot draw inferences about anything from a sample size of n = 1.

There are men who were raised solely by their mothers who turned out great. I am honoured and privileged to be friends with several of them. Our friend the Gentleman Adventurer is a righteous man of manly manliness, married to a good woman and going out of his way to teach the younger generation about the myriad positive aspects of masculinity, and he was raised by a single mother (and a feminist, to boot).

There are also men who were raised in nuclear families where both parents were present and played a very active part in their children's lives, who turned out to be complete dirtbags and wastes of blood and organs after they reached manhood. I have the misfortune to be related to one; no one in my family wants anything to do with him, and he will almost surely die alone and in great pain. Trust me, he deserves it.

The point is that the exceptions do, in fact, prove the rule.

Here is a story to illustrate this. At some point early last year, I was out for brunch with my usual martial arts crew, and, unusually, it was just us blokes that day. This was in fact a great blessing, because the fact is that men can only truly relax and thrive in the company of their brothers. When forged in the crucible of combat, the bonds of brotherhood transcend those of blood, race, rank, kin, faith, and creed. There were white, black, and brown men at that table in that pub that day, and none of our differences mattered. All that mattered was that we were friends sitting together enjoying a quiet drink, a good meal, and great company.

The conversation got around somehow to the question of how important a father is to the development of young men - I was probably the one that brought it up, actually. Normally I keep my political opinions more or less to myself, seeing as how I am a meat-eating red-blooded traditionalist, born in the wrong century, and living in one of the most rabbit-infested parts of the country. But that day, I was feeling my oats a little - the strong ale that I'd just consumed might have had something to do with it as well - and decided to see what everyone at the table would say when I asserted that we, as men, adapt ourselves into our idealised images of our fathers.

To a man, every single one of my brothers agreed with me. Including the chap raised by a single mother, and the one whose dad left his family behind in the Caribbean to work in South America.

And two of my friends then told their stories about growing up without fathers. They talked about the loneliness that they felt, the hardships that they endured, and the lopsidedness of their upbringing, being forced as they were to grow up without masculine role models. They had to find their own templates upon whom to mould themselves as they grew into manhood.

That is the reality of a son of a single mother. He is forced to grow up without ever knowing what it means to be strong, without a man to teach him how to shake another man's hand, how to tie a Windsor knot, how to show up on time, how to be respectful to one's elders, and how to take on the wonderful and terrible burden of being a man.

This is reflected in just about every negative statistic that you care to name. Sons from broken homes who grow up without fathers are exponentially more likely to drop out of school, have behavioural problems, abuse women, get hooked on drugs, end up in prison, and generally waste their lives and all of their innate potential as men.

And, as was brutally and bloodily demonstrated just a week ago yet again, sons from broken homes are most likely to end up as Omega males, unsuccessful with women, incapable of controlling their emotions. It is then the rest of us who end up paying the price, because such boys see no outlet for their all-consuming rage and self-loathing than by securing firearms and slaughtering their peers.

That is the common factor between just about every school and university shooting over the last twenty years - boys from fatherless homes.

There is a very great deal to be said in favour of the harsh but necessary discipline that a father is forced to hand out from time to time. My father never once raised a hand to me, and the only time he ever hit me with anything was with a rolled-up newspaper when I was about 10 - even then, it was a minor swat, not a hit. It took a lot for me to force him to raise his voice to me and discipline me.

But, as the Lord is my witness, the only thing that frightens me more than the thought of my earthly father's unleashed wrath, is the thought of the rage of the Heavenly Father above.

There is nothing more important to the development of a young boy into a man than the presence of his father. Mothers are critically important for providing the nurturing, loving, supportive environment that boys need to feel safe at home. But only fathers can provide the masculine template that every young boy needs in order to reach his full potential as a man.

No father is perfect - except His Hugeness, of course, but He tends to work rather indirectly upon us. My father certainly isn't perfect; there are huge parts of my education as a man that he missed out on, and which I had to figure out for myself the hard way.

But my father did the very best he could with me, and for that, I am profoundly grateful to him. I love my mother very much, but I respect my father even more.

And that is the way it should be.

Ann Coulter is, in the end, absolutely right to excoriate single mothers and the society that permits them to thrive. No one in his right mind thinks that a father is a good man for abandoning his child; he is less than a man, because he has walked out on his responsibilities to a helpless child who needs him more than almost anything else. Yet society praises and lauds single mothers, as if making a decision as incredibly stupid as bringing a child into the world, and then expecting the rest of us to support her idiocy, and punishing and condemning the child in the process to a life of likely failure and mediocrity, is supposedly courageous.

There is nothing brave about single motherhood. There are plenty of good and decent single mothers who are doing the best they can, but let us all stop pretending that they are "brave". They are not. They are, on balance, a massive cost upon the rest of us.

Single motherhood is a blight upon society. No healthy and strong civilisation has ever accepted it or permitted it unchecked, until very recent times - and Western civilisation is anything but healthy.

Every measure that has ever been taken to support it and make it acceptable has to be reversed and removed. And if it is to be saved, broader Western culture must acknowledge that without strong fathers raising good sons, civilisation itself will eventually and ultimately collapse.

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  1. I was the child of a single mother.

    Yes, I turned out fairly good, but that came from genius genes on both sides AND it took me nearly twenty years and 4 tours in the military to finaly realize the things that I should have been taught by a father.

    Heck, if I hadn't grown up addicted to Heinlein Juveniles as my 'father figure' surrogate I would be in jail right now... Not probably, but almost CERTAINLY as I have strong impulse control problems and only learning from the right books and eventually Military structure enabled me to learn the willpower that a father would have instilled.

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  2. BTW, my mother did not 'choose' to be single. Our Father has as strong impulse control problems as us kids... despite being a genius computer designer (before software engineers even existed) he Bailed. I cannot blame him for leaving, but I DO blame him for not at least spending some summers with us.

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