Dear God, not this stupid bint again
Chances are if a woman has a totally bare face, she’ll be told by both male and female colleagues that she looks exhausted, hungover or ill. Tired and pale. It doesn’t matter if she’s actually healthier and happier than she’s ever been; people are so used to seeing made-up women at work that an au naturale face seems anything but natural.
Foundation, mascara, blusher, lipstick - these are the things that apparently make us seem 'well groomed'. Shockingly, a senior female consultant told me recently that some of the positive feedback she’d received in her annual review was to do with make-up. She was praised for coming across as “smart” and “well-presented” – comments her bosses would never think to direct towards male employees.
The problem is that employers now expect women to wear make-up in order to seem 'smart' and 'professional'.
It’s about time we recognised that professionalism has nothing to do with how attractive you look - and everything to do with the way you behave. And there's no high heel or nail varnish on Earth that can help with that.
Bitching and moaning over grooming standards is like taking a job at Hooters, then complaining that you have to wear a bra. Lots of jobs dictate whether men can have facial hair, piercings, visible tattoos, and they dictate what clothing men are allowed to wear. Hint: men’s dress codes are usually way stricter than women’s. [Can confirm. I work in a place where men are required to wear "business casual" all the time. For us, that means a buttoned-down long-sleeve shirt and dress pants, at minimum. Women have far more flexibility in what they wear. As they should.]
Radhika has a little pout over a performance review that commented on women looking ‘smart’ and ‘well-presented’, insisting that such comments would never be directed at men. That’s because men in professional environments don’t generally get the opportunity to come across as frivolous, stupid or poorly put together. There are only so many things you can do with a suit and tie. [Gents: learn how to tie a Windsor knot. Trust me on this. You'll thank me after your next interview.] She then goes on to moan that she prefers a makeup free existence, but feels she has to put some on when she’s going in to the office so that she appears ‘smarter’. She’s British, so she’s using smart in the sense of fashionable, neat, well-dressed, and not in the intelligence sense.
And if she doesn’t? Then she gets passive aggressive comments from other women that she looks ‘tired’. Radhika ends by writing “[i]t’s about time we recognised that professionalism has nothing to do with how attractive you look – and everything to do with the way you behave. And there’s no high heel or nail varnish on Earth that can help with that.’
Honey, that time is already here. Women make shitty comments about your appearance because they hate you. That’s likely based on how you behave. Your own advice? You should take it.