You don't DESERVE to get married
|What most men and women THINK marriage should be like|
We do NOT seem to spend enough time asking exactly why things are as bad as they are today for people looking to settle down and get married. A few writers tackled this independently and individually to explain the real source of the problem:
Men like you and me.
We Created This Disaster...
Here in the manosphere, we are often accused of chauvinism, writing as though women ruined society and men are fantastic at everything. People moan about how badly they want a good girl but just cannot find a viable candidate. Well, let’s not get ahead of ourselves. Who said you deserved one yourself?
The cold reality is that the modern American man is not much better than the modern American woman. If you really believe that patriarchy is the natural order of things, then realize that feminism only exists because men allowed it. [Didact: 100%, absolute, complete truth.] Let that sink in. You are the ones that create the monster of the modern western woman. You complain about how terrible the modern western woman is, but you are the ones that permit them to be this way. [...]
You can go on the internet and complain like there is no hope, but feminism would end in a generation if men started acting like they had a dick in their pants. You think most women really want to be ball-cutting, independent sluts? Women have no idea what they really want. Deep down they all have a Disney princess fantasy, and the average nubile co-ed would gladly drop out of college if she found a man who actually made her happy.
Women want to possessed by a man. It is in their nature to be unable to articulate what they really want, but frankly it should be obvious to the menfolk who by nature are expected to lead. If American Jane can be manipulated by faceless propaganda, how much more so by a man whom she is absolutely in love with and could not imagine her life without?
It is in human nature to take the easy way out, to seek the path of least resistance. Staying single and living free and happy is easy. A man with even a modicum of game and masculinity can do quite well living the Keith Richards lifestyle for much of his life.
It keeps happening because, as Blair Naso points out, we men have let it happen. We fell asleep on the job. We see the wreckage of a once-proud and mighty culture surrounding us, but few of us have the sense to acknowledge that this disaster took place on OUR watch. WE let feminism in through the gates. WE enabled it. WE allowed the cultural Marxists, sodomites, hedonists, and slime peddlers of the Left take over every one of the institutions that matter- even the Holy Mother Church.
This is a catastrophe of OUR creation. And God help us, but we're paying the price for it. Just ask Carey:
That does not negate the truth: that men were given a job to do and we’ve failed. I’m among the cowards myself because for years, I believed the feminist hype and nonsense. I lost a marriage due to many reasons, not the least of them being that I’d fallen down hard on the job as a man, as a husband, and the entire structure collapsed. I didn’t get back up until too many years later. People act as though marriage means nothing. Truth is, if we truly marry ourselves to someone else and take on their desires to support, spend time with them intimately and live together, it is nigh on impossible to ever truly cut those bonds. As should be the case. What is marriage for if it has no real effect on two people? I will always pay the price internally for my part in the failure of that marriage and for splitting that marriage in two, apart from her responsibilities in the collapse.
... And Only We Can Fix It
|And no cheese, either, we're not French|