A costly and irreversible mistake

Yesterday afternoon, returning from a trip into the city that had some rather unpleasant results, I chanced across a poster in the train that went something like this:
Dear 40-year-old Self,
Remember to FREEZE your eggs today so that you can still have a real chance at motherhood!
Love,
Your 30-year-old Self
Obviously an ad aimed at women, it was a poster for a fertility clinic- there is one in my area that is apparently nationally renowned and which does a brisk and profitable business.

I was already in a foul mood from having seen a quite disgraceful spectacle at my martial arts school earlier in the day, and dealing with the after-effects of a gay pride rally in the city didn't help matters- what is it about homosexuals fighting so hard for "equal treatment" that they see the need to shove their beliefs down everyone else's throats?

Seeing that poster certainly didn't put a smile on my face. It did get me to thinking, though- just how delusional are women my age about their chances of conceiving and raising a child?

Apparently, if recent survey results are anything to go by, they are cuckoo-for-Cocoa-Puffs crazy when it comes to understanding just how fast their fertility rates decline with time:
The survey of 1000 women, released today by IVFAustralia, Melbourne IVF and Queensland Fertility Group, found a shocking 64 per cent of respondents didn't know their fertility would decline rapidly from 36 onwards.

It also showed 60 per cent of women thought that infertility in their 40s can be resolved through IVF. 
However this is a complete misconception.

Dr Molloy said IVF doesn't guarantee pregnancy as success rates rapidly decline for aging women.

'Your highest chance of success having a child will be if you can conceive before the age of 35. One of the most common reasons we see patients is age-related infertility, they are basically a modern woman – educated and a valuable addition to the workforce, but what has suffered is their fertility,' Dr Molloy told The Courier Mail.

'If you put a 34-year-old through an IVF program, the chance of getting pregnant on a single treatment cycle is in excess of 40 per cent.'

'When we put a 40-year-old through an IVF program, the pregnancy rate is about 20 per cent.'

Karyn Reardon, now mother of two, was 29 when she and husband Gerard first tried to start having children.

'It took me eight challenging years to produce my first baby – if I had waited until after 35, perhaps it would never have happened,' she said.

After several rounds of IVF she gave birth to her first child Flyn, 8, at 37 years of age and Ostyn, 4, at 40.
It gets worse. The only way to really understand how dire things get for a woman's chances to conceive is to look at a picture of the effect that time has:

 

Like most men of the Manosphere, I take the view that younger is definitely better for women who want to start a family. That ad in the subway is yet another malicious lie being fed to women who, for all of their college educations (most of which are a waste of time and money, by the way) and supposed worldly wisdom, do not have the wit or sense to understand the cold realities of female biology.

The reality is that women who look to settle down and get married by the age of 25 are likely to be much happier in their marriages, are much more likely to conceive children at the right age, and are going to be in a much better position to raise strong nuclear families. Women who delay marriage and childbirth, by contrast, to "live their lives" and "enjoy themselves", find themselves stricken by severe baby rabies at the age of 30 or older, only to suddenly find that their sexual market value has plummeted just as the SMV of the men that they most want to settle down with is rapidly rising.

And to those women who persist in deluding themselves that IVF is some sort of magical safety net- it clearly is not. All you have to do is understand percentages- in a single round of IVF treatment, a 40-year-old woman is only about 20% likely to conceive, and that assumes that each treatment is an independent statistical event, which is assuredly not the case. As time goes on, the ability to conceive declines irrevocably, and there is not a damn thing that human technology can do to stop this. We can slow it, to be sure- expensively and painfully- but we cannot stop it.

Furthermore, women who wait to have children make one huge mistake that is perhaps worse than all of the others put together. Because there is a large age gap between me and my little sister, I watched her grow up almost as much as a parent as I did a brother; in fact there were many times between the ages of 15 and 18 that she complained that she had three parents telling her what to do, and not without cause. My father was about 40 when my sister was born; my mother was 32. Both of them still had the energy and the time and the ability to raise a very young (and extremely bratty) child at those ages. If my sister had instead been my brother, my father might have found things a bit more difficult, since his career was really taking off at the time, but because she was a girl and as such required a bit less immediate bonding with my father, it was a little easier on him. (That is not to say that my sister didn't bond with my father, and with me, especially in her later years; we all know that because she's the baby in the family, she has the men wrapped tightly around her little finger.)

A woman over the age of 40 who has just given birth to her first child is going to find it far more difficult to summon the energy to run after a kid, play with a kid, change diapers, deal with colic and head colds and diaper rash, and do all of the other essential things that young mothers do. A woman between 20 and 25, who still has youth and beauty and energy, is going to have a much easier time of it.

Women must pay heed to these biological and statistical realities. Feminism has lied to them, repeatedly, for 50 years, telling them that they can defy biology and reality, but this is simply not the case. The end result has been that companies can make a tidy profit catering to the desperate dreams of supposedly smart women who were really too dumb to know any better.

Don't make this mistake. Make up your mind early on in life whether you want children- and if you do, then do what it takes to settle down early. Find a good man, and bear him good children. It's just that simple. The rest will take care of itself.

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