The Way of the Sigma
Sigmas are a mystery by design, and in their immature form can resemble hapless Betas, misguided Gammas, or even a desperate Omega, for short periods of time. That is because they don't come by social skills naturally, they usually have to observe and consciously integrate them. Especially about sex. The immature Sigma can stumble and flail wildly with this subject in his early years because he hasn't yet discovered a comprehensive set of instructions on how to properly dip his wick (i.e. Game), but the desire to do so is very much there.
Hence the centaur.The centaur represents the cthonic combination of the primal strength and majesty of the horse with the manual dexterity, intelligence and reason of a man. In mythology, centaurs were either rapacious beasts or wise counselors, or some combination of the two. That's a Sigma: incredible passion and incredible intellect. In an immature Sigma, the Beast often rules, to disastrous result. As the Sigma matures, however, he tames his passion with reason, intellect, skill and education, essentially harnessing the beast to his command. A Sigma who develops self-mastery transforms from a clumsy, earnest, and often-misunderstood young man into a powerful and versatile mature man. And that versatility is key.Mature Sigmas can develop the ability of inserting themselves into any social situation and find the place where their skills and abilities will do the most good. If there is no better leader available, a Sigma can display very strong Alpha characteristics. If a more-natural leader is available, a Sigma is content to fade back and advise in Beta mode, rather than contend for leadership. If there are leaders aplenty, then the Sigma will often step up as a mediator and negotiator. And if things are running smoothly, a Sigma is oftencontent to accept a very minor role, but one which affords him an opportunity to still have subtle influence and a wide field of observation.
S asks about approaching:I score even higher on introverted traits than you do, and you would know, as few others do, just how difficult interactions with other people can be as a result. It's not that I lack self-confidence or the ability to speak with other people, it's that I find small talk tiresome and frustrating. Small talk with women, in particular, can be infuriating in this regard- one can only take so much of listening to women in the office nattering on about "The Bachelor" before being tempted to end it all using the nearest sharp object. Yet, as you, and Roosh, and several others have pointed out, the ability to maintain a strong frame while generating an emotional, rather than logical, conversation, is critical to success with women.
This is an aspect of my life where I have fallen far short of my own expectations. I resolved some time ago to take corrective action, but reading theory only gets one so far.
So, here are my questions for you. How does a self-confident, bookish INTJ move past our natural dislike of other people? Given that bars, Starbucks coffee shops, and other loud environments are kryptonite to most INTJs and therefore to our game, what is the best place for an INTJ to start approaching in order to gain practice and experience? Given that INTJs, more than any other type, prefer living in our heads to living among people, how does an introvert get past the severe drain caused by social interaction in order to maintain a strong frame without having to do a lot of talking?
It's not necessary to spend much time with other people in public in order to meet all the women one could possibly require. The key is to maximize one's efforts while one has the energy to do so. The introvert doesn't have the time to wait for "the right moment", he will run out of steam nine times out of ten before it arrives.
I have always favored a direct approach. Simply make eye contact with whoever is of interest to you. If a pretty woman maintains eye contact and smiles, or better yet, looks down and smiles, immediately go and talk to her. There is no need to go into some sort of mad jongleur routine in an attempt to impress and entertain her, the fact that she has already indicated her interest in you should be sufficient. Have your conversational objective in mind as you approach her, and once you have achieved it, smile, nod, and leave at the first opportunity.