How an Introvert Can Get Into the Game
A word to the wise before I begin: I'm not going to pretend to be some sort of expert. I'm not. I'm a novice. All I can do is point out what seems to work and what does not. I do, however, believe in practising what I preach. For far too long, I've let the game pass me by, unable or unwilling to participate. That has to end. And that means that over the next several months, I'll be applying these lessons learned, refining my own approach, and posting about my successes and my failures here.
- Realise that there are no shortcuts. This is a lesson I have internalised in almost every aspect of my life except my personal life. I suppose this is partly due to my upbringing. I was raised in a very happy, close-knit Asian family. My parents met when they were children. They've been married for over 30 years. The idea of going out there and finding someone just never really occurred to me. It's even worse for many of my fellow Asians who just accept going through arranged marriages- it's just what happens, according to them. This is not what I want. There can be no skill without constant practice. This is true whether you're talking about pistol/rifle shooting, Krav Maga, powerlifting, driving, music, investing- or game. There is no such thing as a quick or easy reward. This world will not give you something that you did not earn.
- The fact that there are no shortcuts is a very good thing for the introvert. Hard work comes naturally to us, especially INTJ Masterminds like me. Never forget that we have the power to move mountains, should we so choose- but it must be our choice.
- Failure is inevitable. Accept it. Learn from it. Use it to make yourself better. Roosh's book Bang has an excellent anecdote early on about this very subject, where Roosh managed to get himself clocked by some uber-aggressive bitchy woman and subsequently became an approach machine.
- Strive for continuous self-improvement. Analyse every aspect of yourself. Be brutally honest in analysing your shortcomings, so that you know where to concentrate your efforts in order to improve. The moment you stop analysing, as an introvert, is the moment that you begin to decline.
- Look to create a style of game that suits your natural temperament. Introverts will never be extroverted personalities. It's beyond us, and trying to be that way burns us out at incredible speed. As an introvert, you thrive in small groups. Your loyalty is to your tribe- your family and your closest friends, your significant other, and your closest colleagues. Attempting to operate outside this paradigm will get you into trouble very quickly.
- Realise that fear is surmountable. It can be dealt with, given sufficient time, motivation, and effort.
- Socialise with other introverts. It's not easy, we're not exactly keen on advertising either ourselves or our introversion. But we do exist, and there are ways to find us.